Modern Vintage Circus Nursery

For the last 2 months of being MIA on this blog we have been consumed by all things relating to The Adoption. It has been stressful and scary at times in the process but more importantly very exciting and fun! I am so happy to say how accomplished I feel at the amount of progress we have made in two short months. We have completed all our paperwork and are half way through our home study! Next Saturday our home study will be complete and by the end of March we anticipate “going live” which is adoption speak for officially approved and out there in the world to adopt a baby.

You may have read my previous post on the adoption questionnaire we were each required to answer. It was interesting to read the differences between my husband and I in our responses. He was short and to the point, I was ummmm…the opposite. I was skeptical and frustrated if you couldn’t tell but that is all behind us and once I got past being overwhelmed I was able to enjoy the process.

I have been dying to post all the pictures of the nursery/kids guest room so far. I wanted to have a room all of my little nieces and nephews could stay in when they visit and have the necessary nursery things just in case the baby comes sooner rather than later (I just want to be prepared!)

My 18-month-old niece MacKenzie will be coming with my sister in April so she will get to be the first to break the room in, I’m very excited for their visit. The room isn’t quite done yet. I need to frame a couple of the prints and put cute children’s books on the shelves instead of the ugly baby tutorial books.

The room is intended to be gender neutral and we wanted color in the room without having to paint the walls. Maybe when we actually find out if we are getting a boy or girl we will paint the walls too.

Without further ado, here are the pics. Let me know what your favorite parts are! What else do you think it needs? Other than an actual baby to go in it, haha!

I found the twin beds and night stands at the Metrolina last month. The beds were $100 a piece and the pair of nighstands was $125. The night stands were upcycled from an old armoire and the skinny size is perfect for my small space and they have two drawers for storage. The turquise quilts and tangerine pillow covers are both from Home Goods. Think I spend about $70 total on the bedding
I found the twin beds and night stands at the Metrolina last month. The beds were $100 a piece and the pair of nightstands were $125. The night stands were upcycled from an old armoire and the skinny size is perfect for my small space and they have two drawers for storage. The turquoise quilts and tangerine pillow covers are both from Home Goods. Think I spend about $70 total on the bedding

Circus nursery

I ordered this velour changing pad cover on Amazon for $13. It's really soft and goes with the lamp perfectly!
I ordered this velour changing pad cover on Amazon for $13. It’s really soft and goes with the lamp perfectly!
The rods ($17), curtains ($20/panel), tangerine ottoman ($50) and rug ($69) are all from Target.
The rods ($17), curtains ($20/panel), tangerine ottoman ($50) and rug ($69) are all from Target.
I got the tangerine lamp bases and Ikat shades from Target, mix and match. The giraffe was a vintage find and I love his mid century modern look. He is porcelain so he will be put away when baby starts walking.
I got the tangerine lamp bases and Ikat shades from Target, mix and match. The giraffe was a vintage find and I love his mid century modern look. He is porcelain so he will be put away when baby starts walking.
So a lot of people have clown phobias and think they are creepy and in general I think they are creepy too but this a circus room and it needed a clown. I found him for $10
So a lot of people have clown phobias and think they are creepy and in general I think they are creepy too but this a circus room and it needed a clown. I found him for $10
Mirror mirror on the wall...you are the awesomest of them all! This is my very favorite thing in the whole room. I stumbled upon it while antiquing at Gibson Mill. It is an upcycled find for $75!
Mirror mirror on the wall…you are the awesomest of them all! This is my very favorite thing in the whole room. I stumbled upon it while antiquing at Gibson Mill. It is an upcycled find for $75!
I found this antique upcycled dresser at the Metrolina for $100. I think dedicated changing tables are dumb and ugly to be honest..so I just put the changing pad right on top of it you can easily secure to the dresser for safety.
I found this antique upcycled dresser at the Metrolina for $100. I think dedicated changing tables are dumb and ugly to be honest..so I just put the changing pad right on top of it you can easily secure to the dresser for safety.
I was so ecstatic when I found this lamp at Home Goods, it was only $25!!!
I was so ecstatic when I found this lamp at Home Goods, it was only $25!!!
I got the 4 piece crib bedding set on Amazon for $136. It included the fitted sheet, the dust ruffle, the comforter and bumpers which I have not attached since it's not recommended for infants (SIDS risk). The crib mattress we got at Target which is American made and green certified on sale for $60, extra firm. I did a lot of research on off gasing.
I got the 4 piece crib bedding set on Amazon for $136. It included the fitted sheet, the dust ruffle, the comforter and bumpers which I have not attached since it’s not recommended for infants (SIDS risk). The crib mattress we got at Target which is American made and green certified on sale for $60, extra firm. I did a lot of research on off gasing.
I got these two shelves at Home Goods for $29 a piece. They are actually different colors which I like.
I got these two shelves at Home Goods for $29 a piece. They are actually different colors which I like.
I wanted a crib that was pretty minimalist and I loved the grey color that went with all my antique furniture. The crib was $120 and the canopy was $20!!!! Most cribs I looked at started around $500 so I am very happy with both the look and the price.
I wanted a crib that was pretty minimalist and I loved the grey color that went with all my antique furniture. The crib was $120 and the canopy was $20!!!! Most cribs I looked at started around $500 so I am very happy with both the look and the price.
I loved this vintage find. I love the little boys polka dot pajamas and top hat. It's just the kind of whimsy I wanted in the room.
I loved this vintage find. I love the little boys polka dot pajamas and top hat. It’s just the kind of whimsy I wanted in the room.
This bag I ordered at the last 31 party I went to from the Spring 2013 line. It's $50 so it was one of the pricer things but I figure I will be using it every day and it is extremely functional with a zipper closure and lots of outside pockets for easy access.
This bag I ordered at the last 31 party I went to from the Spring 2013 line. It’s $50 so it was one of the pricer things but I figure I will be using it every day and it is extremely functional with a zipper closure and lots of outside pockets for easy access.
I have no idea what I will store in this tin, maybe little memorabilia but it was a $8 find so I don't really care what I use it for!
I have no idea what I will store in this tin, maybe little memorabilia but it was a $8 find so I don’t really care what I use it for!
I ordered this hippo chair on Amazon for $36! It was the very first thing I bought for the room. Chris and I are totally obsessed with hippos :)
I ordered this hippo chair on Amazon for $36! It was the very first thing I bought for the room. Chris and I are totally obsessed with hippos 🙂
I got this two sided hamper from a 31 party. The center divider is removable and completely folds up. This will be so nice to carry downstairs to the laundry room. It also matches my diaper bag
I got this two sided hamper from a 31 party. The center divider is removable and completely folds up. This will be so nice to carry downstairs to the laundry room. It also matches my diaper bag
Who doesn't love his classic children's books?
Who doesn’t love his classic children’s books?
Turquoise frame from Target and vintage finds. The carousel is musical and I had it from my childhood!
Turquoise frame from Target and vintage finds. The carousel is musical and I had it from my childhood!

Chicken Soup and Stewing on Big Decisions

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(photo by pioneer woman)

Chicken soup is a very good thing. Soup is the only thing that sounds even remotely satisfying at the moment. It’s going on 9 days of this super nasty cold/flu that has me beyond annoyed for several reasons:

1. I had spent the previous 2 weeks back in California (having an amazing time with family and friends) and upon returning home I was to get right on decorating for Christmas, present shopping, baking holiday goodies, etc.

2. I was eager to get right back into my personal training program which I was making fabulous progress with prior to going out of town and getting whollopped by airplane germs. (I’ve lost a little over 10lbs and have had huge strength gains!)

3. There is a mountain of paperwork to be completed to move forward with our adoption plan. Tomorrow is the due date for our application to Independent Adoption Center in order to attend the mandatory weekend adoption “intensive” workshop this coming 14th and 15th.

For all these reasons sickness has had very poor timing. Of course is there ever a good time to be sick? Probably not. It just seems like this last week has gone by with me being an idle lump, accomplishing nothing but a longer list of things I could and should be doing.

Click on Pioneer Woman’s link above to her very simple and delicious recipe for chicken soup.

Today at least I feel human again, thanks to copious amounts of chicken soup, my new humidifier (fabulous little invention) and possibly the antibiotics I begrudgingly started taking yesterday.

With the fog clearing my brain I sat down to tackle some of this adoption paperwork, how bad could it be?

Chris, being the truly amazing husband he is, had already filled out all the basic information they required: address, social security, educational backgrounds, work history and financial status. I just had to fill in a few of the blanks and email it back to him. Done.

Then I delved into the Home Study questionnaire (which thank the Lord we have awhile to complete)….I would like to share these questions here on my blog and as you read them think about how you would answer these questions and the complexity of being honest while knowing a stranger will read your response thus deeming you worthy or unworthy of being a parent…..

1. How would you describe yourself? (personality, strengths and limitations)

2. Describe you spouse’s personality and strengths. What would you change?

3. If you have children, describe their personalities, likes and dislikes.

4. What do you feel are the strong points in your marriage/relationship?

5. What type of goals do you work toward in your marriage/relationship?

6. What are usually the areas of disagreement?

7. How do you handle problems and conflict?

8. Please give a brief statement describing your thoughts about religion and its place in your life.

9. If you are childless, what experiences have you had with children?

10. How do you (or how do you plan to) discipline your children? Give examples.

11. Define discipline.

12. Define misbehavior.

13. What is the difference between discipline and abuse.

14. What aspects of child rearing are important to you?

15. Do you and your spouse/partner agree on child rearing and discipline?

16. What do you expect from your children?

17. What goals do you wish your child to achieve?

18. Why are you applying for adoption?

19. Do both of you wish to adopt?

20. What have been your parents’ response to adoption and response of friends and relatives?

WHEW!!! That’s all. 20 questions. 20 questions that no parent who is bringing a child into the world is ever required to answer, even though, maybe they should, for their own self knowledge.  I’m not even sure how to even begin writing my answers. Yes I can describe myself, my strengths, my weaknesses and describe my relationship with my husband but it feels so weird writing all of it for the purposes of a stranger giving me permission to be parent.

Each of these questions will require a significant amount of time, self reflection, communication with my husband, and editing since I could probably write a novel for each.

This is the beginning and tomorrow is do or die, figuritively speaking. Once we sign that contract we are in this and committed to this path. We have weighed our options:

1. Live a childless life

2. Pursue IVF with the possiblity of health complications and no guarantee of conceiving

3. Adopt: Domestic- Open, Closed, or through Foster Care. International Adoption and infant or older child….

I’ve been stewing on these options for awhile. I’ve seriously considered them all and we have picked open adoption. I want it to feel natural, I want it to feel right but while I read and reread these questions it doesn’t feel natural. Only God knows and time will tell if it is the right decision. I hope he can help me write my answers.

What do you think about this Home Study Questionnaire?